"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom."


"Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes."

Carl Jung

About Me

I'm Vicki.

Woman. Wife. Mother.

I am a 39 year old, living with ADHD, Fibromyalgia and BPD - and suspected autism.

I am a former counsellor of 15 years, specialising in grief and couples therapy, operating in the UK.

I was officially diagnosed with ADHD in Nov 2022, and have spent the year doing what we all do in the beginning - unpicking my life whilst trying to make sense of it.

Fun Facts about me:

Current Obsessions:

This website


Our chickens

Current major Ick:

People that are ignorant

Too many textures at once



What should I be doing right now:

The laundry

I was lucky - I managed to eventually find a Doctor that would listen to what I was saying.

Doctor Malhan at Talkmind changed the course of my life and I shall be forever greatful to him.

But there aren't enough professionals like him out there in the world. That is the simple truth.

This site was created because I wanted to offer a safe space to neurodivergents and their family members,

to explore the themes associated with divergence, learn and grow as they educate themselves.

I set out to build a community that would be supportive when our families couldn't or wouldn't offer us that.

What I have found in the short time I have been on this journey, is that many of us feel completely alone.

We know our neurotypical family and friends cannot possibly understand the nuances of living our lives.

Most of us feel as though we are merely tolerated - which doesn't have to be the case.

I may have lofty visions of what our futures could look like, and they may be completely unachievable in the

real world, but wouldn't it be amazing to have a community of diverse people, all supporting one another,

cheering us on when we need it? Wouldn't it be nice to have one place to visit, with resources shared

freely and minds communicating openly?

That right there... Is the dream.

So if any of this sounds appealing to you, visit the Join the Community section.

Come and get involved in the narrative heading out into the world.

If you would like to find my TikTok account click here.

If you feel you are in need of support, and are looking for an ADHD Coach, to help you though

these stages, please get in touch below to discuss the kind of support you would like.

If you are interested in reading the book

I have written on the first year post

diagnosis, join the Not My World community

and receive a free copy of it.

Alternatively, you can purchase your

paperback on Amazon.

"No, autism is not a 'gift'. For most, it is a endless fight against schools, workplaces and bullies. But, under the right circumstances, given the right adjustments, it CAN be a superpower."

Greta Thunberg

"Diagnosis is not the end, but the beginning of practice."

Martin H Fischer